Approachability is needed as to be able to introduce yourself to others. Additionally, appearance matters, first impressions can make or break you. With that said, it’s going to take some time, effort and focus to find such opportunities, get you off your keyboard and go out and try these things yourself. There are plenty of great groups, volunteer opportunities, classes, team, events, social functions, trivia nights and more to meet people from all walks of life. It’s brutal, no doubt, but that doesn’t mean you have to struggle. I wrote extensively about the dating scene in San Francisco in a previous post. Spend enough time in San Francisco and you will hear enough complaints how things have changed for the worst over the years and how hard it is to date and make friends.